For the technically minded: perhaps try open circuiting the control pilot signal for a second or two. It may be that the car has a low power circuit to detect pulling out and in of the charging plug, via the low voltage control pilot, rather than the 240VAC. This could be done via a small relay with normally closed contacts. For extra points, detect the pilot changing state. Though it could well be that the EVSE (AC "charger") already does this, in which case it won't do any good. It depends if the EVSE signals "no charging" via +12V or by open circuiting the control pilot pin. Maybe open circuit the proximity pilot pin instead, or as well as the control pilot pin.
The other crazy thought is a solenoid to automatically "press" the close door button on a spare key fob when you need to wake the car. Or maybe use your main key fob, and make a habit of storing in the "electronic thumb" gadget when charging.
It's a shame we have to get so creative to work around these glitches.