You say you've just bought the 4. I've had mine for a few weeks and initially I was charging from a 13A granny I'd got cheap from Amazon. I got REALLY frustrated trying to get the flippin' thing to work.
It was my first electric car and I hadn't appreciated that unlike charging any normal battery (where you just plug in a charger, connect a battery and it starts charging) charging an EV involves a two-way confirmation. The charger needs to be ready to supply, and the vehicle ready to receive.
I found it would only start charging from the car infotainment screen. Once plugged in and ready, I'd open the dashboard charging screen, click 'Lock' to lock in the plug, then click 'Start Charging'.
Once it started charging I could get out and lock the vehicle. BUT if you unlock the car again the charging stops and won't restart unless you again select 'Lock' and 'Start'!
Bear in mind this was just my experience over a few charges before I got an 11kW 7kW wall box which the car seems to get on with better. My car is also still on R33 software which is really glitchy in many areas... hoping to get it updated soon.